I’m a great believer in living life to the fullest and embracing every opportunity that comes your way.
However, I didn’t always have this outlook on life. Only when I faced the biggest challenge of my life did I realise the power of the Universe and how important it is to be your most authentic self.
When I walked away from an emotionally and physically abusive marriage with my three children, then two, three, and five years old, I was stepping into an unknown future.
It ended up being the best thing I would ever do.
My children are all grown up now. They are happy, healthy, and successful. My decision could have had a catastrophic impact on them, but instead, I was able to show them how to manage their destiny and never settle for less than they deserve.
It took me a long time to realise that being a single mum didn’t mean losing myself in the process. Having dreams, ambitions, and a life outside ‘mum’ was just as important. The pain I struggled with was emotional. All the physical scars had faded years ago, yet I was still holding on to the past and allowing this pain to predict my future.
I have made impressive progress in many aspects of my personal development. I could have fallen apart after my divorce, but I took the experiences I’d been through and learned from them. I shaped them into lessons, choosing to be a survivor rather than a victim.
Re-shaping the way we think and act upon any of life’s curve balls is what allows us to evolve. I learned how to find inner peace, a calm environment, and a strength I never knew existed. I believed I was broken beyond all repair, unlovable, weak, and a failure, but once I found the determination to face my problems and re-think how I saw them, I was able to utilise the lessons and grow.
It took time, but eventually, I saw my life as a blank page just waiting for me to add the new chapters. Simple life hacks such as picking and choosing who I follow on social media were beneficial to shaping the life I wanted.
Surrounding myself with positive people who filled my heart with joy became my aim. I no longer wanted to be dominated by such negativity and darkness. As Jim Rohn tells us, “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
I lived and worked as my authentic self, serving the community as a holistic health practitioner and tutor and ensuring my well-being was at the top of my to-do list. I knew that I couldn’t help others if I were broken.
Surviving the challenges I faced during my married life and raising three children alone gave me the skills, determination, and drive to chase my dreams of becoming an author and writing for a living. I turned my failures into triumphs.
I now share my thoughts and experiences via my self-help books to help other women be the best they can be. We are all capable of so much if we pause to reflect, reconnect, and recognise our potential.
Facing my darkest fears head on was the toughest challenge I ever faced, but it reaped the greatest rewards.
Shelley Wilson is a multi-genre author and writing mentor for women in business. She is a single mum of three and lives in Solihull, West Midlands. If you want to write a non-fiction book that boosts your business and opens up an abundance of opportunities, then get in touch to find out how Shelley can help: https://shelleywilsonwritingmentor.com/
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